Co-Regulation: How to Help Your Child Navigate Big Emotions with Your Support
Using Co-Regulation to Support Your Child
Introduction: When children experience big emotions, they often look to adults for help in managing them. This is where co-regulation comes in—a supportive, nurturing way for parents to help children navigate intense feelings. Let’s dive into what co-regulation is and how you can use it to support your child.
Why It Matters:
Co-regulation is the process of helping your child regulate their emotions by providing calm, steady support. Children often struggle to self-regulate, especially when emotions run high. Co-regulation helps them develop emotional control over time, making them feel safe and understood.
Helpful Strategies:
Model Calmness: The first step in co-regulation is staying calm yourself. If your child sees you remain composed during their emotional outburst, they are more likely to mirror your behavior.
Acknowledge Their Feelings: Let your child know that you understand how they are feeling. “I see you’re really upset right now. It’s okay to feel angry.” Acknowledging their feelings helps them feel heard.
Use Simple, Soothing Language: Keep your language calm and simple. You might say, “Let’s take a deep breath together,” or “I’m here with you, let’s settle down together.”
Guide Them Through the Process: Help your child with specific actions to calm down. For example, lead them in taking deep breaths or guiding their hands to squeeze a stress ball. The goal is to help them find coping strategies that work.
Key Takeaways:
Co-regulation helps children learn to navigate their emotions with adult support.
Stay calm and acknowledge your child’s feelings to create a safe emotional environment.
Offer specific coping strategies to guide your child through intense feelings.
Conclusion:
Co-regulation is a powerful way to support your child during emotional moments. By staying calm and offering soothing guidance, you help your child develop the skills they need to regulate their emotions independently in the future. Be patient, as this process takes time and practice.
Need ideas for coping strategies? Start with our Relaxation Sequence Posters or Regulation Alphabet Cards
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